Sourcing Love from Within

The days of "he loves me, he loves me not" are long gone.

We can no longer place our source of love outside of ourselves.

That isn't true love, despite what the Disney movies showed you.

Playing the part of the beautiful princess, acting in ways you hope will be pleasing and approved, saying the right things, being sexy enough, but not too sexy, because you're a good girl after all….

Argh. Enough.

YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.

You don’t need to contort and shrink and filter yourself to fit your perception of what other people want from you. It’s not real. It’s no more real than those Disney fairytales.

Trust me, there’s a greater love beyond that.

Maybe it's wild and maybe it's messy, as you learn to love yourself in a world that labels such pursuits as narcissistic.

Maybe it wont feel like you’re tapping into that love, despite all the long baths and beauty treatments you give yourself. Self love is not JUST about the self care rituals. Yes, those are needed, but it’s more about the intention and presence in the moment.

It’s about listening to your body, to your heart, your soul, and giving your Self what you need to feel love.

It’s about choosing yourself. Over and over again.

Instead of abandoning your own wants and needs, sacrificing yourself in pursuit of another’s love.

And it’s not selfish. Unfortunately there are few love stories (and if you know of any, please send them my way!) that show how beautiful and generous this love of self ultimately is for others.

It’s incredible what we can give others when we, ourselves, are full. Self-full. Not selfish.

There is a love that swells from deep within. A love that is unlimited, flowing, infinite. It expands your heart and overflows so that there is nothing you can do but spread genuine love to all.

And it’s not contrived or manipulative in those subtle ways that we give to others but with a hidden motive to have love or favours reciprocated.

Instead, as you embrace all of your exiled parts, demons and shadows, you are lovingly accepting more and more of yourself… Your authentic, whole self.

So that when you see those once shadowy parts in others, your love and compassion for them is even stronger. No pity, judgement, shame or turning away.

The more you come to love all aspects of yourself, the more you can love these parts when they are reflected in others.

The more you love.

Love.

It really does begin with the Self. 💛

In Nurture during Love week, we breakdown love in relationships and the ways we resist loving all of our parts, by finding the mirrors in others. It's a powerful process that had one of the women in the last round having a a beautiful D&M with her dad for the first time in her life!

The next intake for Nurture is open. Find out more here.