Fall in love with your triggers

When you begin to see that other people are reflections of the unloved parts of yourself, something magical happens — you start to fall in love with your triggers.

Triggers are those moments, situations, or interactions that stir up uncomfortable feelings or emotional responses. They catch us off guard, pulling us into old stories, defence mechanisms, or reactions that often feel out of proportion. But what if these triggers are not here to torment us — what if they’re here to guide us?

Whenever you feel activated by someone or something outside of you, it’s an invitation. Can you look within, instead of pointing the finger outward?

When blame rises to the surface, get honest with yourself. Where can you take responsibility for your part in the dynamic?

If someone’s behaviour disgusts you — pause. Ask yourself, gently: is there a part of me I find just as hard to accept? Can I offer that part of myself some compassion?

When irritation or frustration bubbles up, use it as a mirror. What part of you is asking to be seen, heard, or tended to?

If the thought crosses your mind, “Who do they think they are?” — ask instead, “What part of me is longing to be expressed with that same boldness or freedom?”

When you catch yourself mocking or judging another, take a moment to reflect: what part of me doesn’t feel validated, worthy, or enough?

Impatience with others often points to a deeper truth — a part of you that is waiting to be honoured. Not by anyone else, but by you.

Every trigger is a gift. It might be wrapped in discomfort, but within it lies the potential to grow, to become more whole, to reclaim and integrate the pieces of yourself you've tucked away.

Open it with love.